Today marks two years with my lovely wife Traci. Here are some things I've learned (mostly the hard way). This is by no means exhaustive and many are Traci inspired, but not necessarily approved. Married or single, positive or negative, feedback or additions, it's all appreciated:
1) What's important to them isn't necessarily important to you, that doesn't mean it's not important.
2) Differences are valuable, just make sure the differences aren't values.
3) You don't realize how unique your family is until you try to start a new one.
4) There is a lot of baggage you don't know you have.
5) Love their family because to them, their family is who they are.
6) Invest in argument saving technologies: GPS, dishwasher, dual a/c controls, king size bed, separate bathroom sinks, and even blogs (so my wife doesn't have hear my every stray thought).
7) The safety of stability is the only way to raw intimacy.
8) Don't share the negatives about your spouse without their permission/knowledge.
9) However, you should allow trusted friends and family to know your hardships and speak to them.
10) Love because you said your would, not because they love you.